Here are a few challenging and encouraging quotes I ran across while reading Paul Tripp's Instruments in The Redeemer's Hands.
I am afraid we have replaced love in our relationships with being "nice." Being nice and acting out of love are not the same thing. Our culture puts a high premium on being tolerant and polite. We seek to avoid uncomfortable moments, so we see, but do not speak. We go so far as to convince ourselves taht we are not speaking because we love the other person, when in reality we fail to speak because we lack love.—Paul Tripp, Instruments in The Redeemer's Hands, p.202
The truth is that we fail to confront, not because we love others too much, but because we love oursleves too much..—Paul Tripp, Instruments in The Redeemer's Hands p.202
Harboring bitterness against people is actually, confessing their sin to myself, over and over again. Anger is akin to confessing their sin to God, dissatisfied that he hasn't done something and placing myself in his position as judge. Gossip is confessing their sin to someone else.—Paul Tripp, Instruments in The Redeemer's Hands, p.229
"Truth that is not spoken in love ceases to be truth because it is twisted by other human agendas. Love that is not guided by truth ceases to be love because it is divorced from God's agenda." —Paul Tripp, Instruments in The Redeemer's Hands, p.232